End Of Year Message Edy Dad Father And Mother

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jueves, 31 de diciembre de 2015

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I Ayu (another name) in Pekanbaru, Riau, mother of 1 daughter aged 4 years into my question why my son did not want to shake hands with new people he knew, especially with other people who are older, like a new family know , but it is also not readily familiar with close family are rarely encountered, please advise how to deal with so that I can give direction to my son to be a better child.

Fitriah good mother in Pekanbaru,

Indeed, so parents was not easy as what we imagine yes ... But so child shall it was not easy as parents imagine.

So said an observer of the child's development Dr. Sears. who have lived life as a parent and a lover of children from birth to her 27-year-old son.

Why become a child is not easy ..? Let's look more observations he put the camera in the position of a child.

By the time the child barusia the first year and are learning to adjust to his new surroundings, while he could not speak, so he could do was cry over what happened to him, perhaps because of hunger, swelter, chills, itching, abdominal pain, etc. ,

In general, parents do not immediately understand and responsive help but often put it off for a few minutes because of busy mother of another of urgency, so that the child should cry harder, but what happens with parents who heard her crying out loud? whether the rush comes with an apology or even come up with feelings of irritation and anger that seeks in its resistance ..? Just imagine if we so baby earlier ..?

Another time, when the child starts trying to learn to do things such as parents for instance bribe rice into his mouth, drinking themselves from a glass, etc., which occur even gets a reaction prohibition plus sometimes screaming from their parents as they may fear glass spilled, food spills to dirty carpet etc.

Children who are still very early age this ability has been compared with adults who should do it completely right and perfect. Imagine how unfair we compare with our toddler age children are already adults who already have ribuah flying hours eating and drinking ..?

By the time children learn to socialize with the uniqueness of self and their own way, the parents instead impose a way and its own traditions or family such as children must be willing to immediately kiss the hands of older people who had just seen, and if it does not immediately follow their parents then it is considered problematic, forced and pushed his embarrassment did not want to shake hands with new people. Imagine if we were your own son?

Eh turn our children are now being fast at the familiar and willing to carry or invite anyone the reaction of her parents became angry and snapped possible with words like "you do so ya ..! "You must be careful, do not want to be carried away by her or invited new people you know ya!", "If that's how you'll easily once kidnapped people you do not know. Do you understand..!?

Imagine if we scolded her husband like that ..?

When a child is more careful to not readily familiar with new people he knew and still keep a distance until he analyzed and concluded that this person is safe and not harmful to himself, eh was still in the blame as well, he does not readily familiar with the brothers,

Just imagine ..? So in fact children who like what we want?

So actually means a child is wrong or we were too many wants and is not consistent with our own desires?

Surely whoever he (friend of the mother, cousins, relatives) for the new child he knew was a new person, he does not know or are not familiar with the concept of family, relatives, friends etc.

Actually children normal mother, I felt that the explanation Fitriah Mother, Mother of the child is a child who is Visual - Melancholy

Children Visual Melancholy usually have the main features are very sensitive to their feelings, prudent, shy is not easy to close to new people, perfectionis, quiet, tend to withdraw and take a few hours or might be necessary some day to be able to disburse in new people even though it was a close relative of ours.

So our task is to understand what their children based on their uniqueness.

If the mother wants to educate the appropriate disposition then never use a loud voice because he really does not like the sound of loud though Mother is not angry, but hug and whisper gently (remember the key word is whispered) and ask why he did not want to shake hands, ask also to whisper , roughly when he was willing to give the greeting, "tell the mother yes if you already want to shake hands?" (let him determine how long the analysis of the new people).

Strive to never use violence or coercion, as more and more he was forced to withdraw and instead will usually cry.

Never educate children according to our will but educate him according nature, or as a basic typology congenital birth of each child.

Be patient, and if Mother could then consider the patient after he observed and felt comfortable with the new person he began going over and was approached by new people earlier.

The important thing is grateful that Mother had a child with this type, because of course with prudence, the child will be spared Mother of cases of child abduction as is feared most of the parents of the toddler.

Happy New Year 2016, I hope we can become better parents and better. And good luck, happy, healthy and blessings are always with us throughout 2016

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