1. Do not get married because of loneliness, married since all the others are married, we lived a man who has not, how sad, marriage is not a trend, that everyone can join in, especially because it did not seem strange own good. And in spite of that, note well, many people who after getting married, she still felt lonely, alone.
2. Do not marry for reasons other person. That's right, in the dramatic events, we can get married so that parents have time to watch before he died, so they are happy. But marry for reasons of our own, make it the largest benchmark. Because of the lead-household family life it is we, not others. And because, if tomorrow the day after the marriage fails, we do not blame anyone else - it's nothing like benefits.
3. All the marriage had problems. Lie if someone said that their families are fine all time. Then why a marriage can be preserved? Because there are impatient and defeatist. The only provision that no marriage ever less are: patience. Have patience mountain, still lacking a lot. Have patience exorbitant, was still lacking a lot. So his lunch did not have a car, house, kitchen utensils, dsbgnya. Umar Bin Khattab classmates are still in need of an extra sense of patience.
4. We never know who our best mate. No tools, no application, and will not be found. We found out after we go through the marriage. And complexity, it is also not enough. Many have parted ways after a long marriage. So when we did not know exactly dong? There is no answer. Well, with such a situation, do not spend the time to worry whether this is the best mate or not. If you are Muslim, praying Establish istikharah, get confidence, then bismillah, live steadily.
2. Do not marry for reasons other person. That's right, in the dramatic events, we can get married so that parents have time to watch before he died, so they are happy. But marry for reasons of our own, make it the largest benchmark. Because of the lead-household family life it is we, not others. And because, if tomorrow the day after the marriage fails, we do not blame anyone else - it's nothing like benefits.
3. All the marriage had problems. Lie if someone said that their families are fine all time. Then why a marriage can be preserved? Because there are impatient and defeatist. The only provision that no marriage ever less are: patience. Have patience mountain, still lacking a lot. Have patience exorbitant, was still lacking a lot. So his lunch did not have a car, house, kitchen utensils, dsbgnya. Umar Bin Khattab classmates are still in need of an extra sense of patience.
4. We never know who our best mate. No tools, no application, and will not be found. We found out after we go through the marriage. And complexity, it is also not enough. Many have parted ways after a long marriage. So when we did not know exactly dong? There is no answer. Well, with such a situation, do not spend the time to worry whether this is the best mate or not. If you are Muslim, praying Establish istikharah, get confidence, then bismillah, live steadily.
5. Well, there is no perfect mate in this world. Everyone has flaws. There are handsome / pretty pol, it turns out that sleep ngoroknya like sirens. There are responsible nan loyal, apparently forgetful, he forgot to pick up his wife in manalah. But we can always make imperfect it be lovely, cool, like a rainbow, as long as we are willing to accept its shortcomings. Orang2 busy putting the perfect criteria for potential soul mate, will live alone until the aliens attack the earth.
6. No one knows exactly when we will get married. Eh, still kecentilan, spoiled-spoiled, it turns out tomorrow are married, have children or even two. Which looks mature one, is ready at all, even wise nian talk about marriage, it turns out many years remained alone. So, when we do not know when it will come mate, focus on self-improvement. When the chance comes, remember the old advice, a good opportunity does not come twice. But when the chance to escape, fail, also remember the old adage, there will always be next kesempatan2 for the patient.
7. Work remains, well established, and others that should not be an absolute requirement to find a mate. It was really, really fun if we match was already well-established, wealthy. But it may be even more special again, if we jointly lead a simple life, to then become better every day. Better to just make sure that all parties understand their responsibilities. For example, it is the responsibility of the husband to earn a living. Wife should work? Helping the family income? Restored to masing2 partner would like. But obviously, if the wife works, the income is the property of him - a matter he would give it to the family or not, that's her. Absolute responsibility remains on the husband. Pemahaman2 such important too, so that you men who are now busy upset, especially busy stocking charm, knowing exactly when to get married later.
8. Finding a mate it is not complicated. It's real loh smile emoticon. Find a mate that simple. You can ask the parents to find (because it is also one-on-one with their obligations). Also can ask friends become intel matchmaking. Mate exists everywhere, in school, in college, in the workplace, on public transport when leaving the move, in the mosques, in the complex of houses, etc, etc. But why sometimes seem complicated? Because we are the ones who make it complicated. Note well, in this world has billions of people never married. Billions couples. Well, where complexity if someone else anyway billions have been married.
9. Finally, if you want to learn many things about marriage, then do not learn from novel2 (especially novel Tere Liye), from fiction films, from soap operas, serials. Ouch, that fiction tablets. Dikarang2 just as the writer of the story. But learn from parents around you. Grandparents, opa-grandmother, great-great champion, who has been married for decades, but it remains a lasting and happy. Observe, learn, listen to their advice, it is important, their lives could be an example. So the day after tomorrow when we get married, suddenly appeared a serious problem, we can imitate them, how they cope with problems. It always can be no valuable life lessons.
* Tere Liye
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